3 Simple Steps to Prevent the Fear of Rejection in Fundraising

The fear of what others will think can be debilitating, especially as it relates to fundraising. What if your friends reject you? What if your family thinks you’re a charity case? What if you lose relationships? What if you never really raise the money?

Okay, those fears are real, and I’m not going to invalidate them. I get it. I’ve been there and I understand exactly what you’re talking about. The key is to remember you will never be able to control how people perceive your calling. No one has even asked you to do that. So, how do you fundraise with all these fears still swirling around you?

Here are 3 simple tips to keep moving forward with your fundraising even when you’re worried what others will think.

1 Make the First Steps Easier

Begin by reaching out to the people you feel most comfortable talking with about your fundraising. Practice your delivery. Listen to yourself for things that might be misinterpreted and adjust accordingly. Also, you can evaluate the way you word your financial ask with this video by Russell.

2 Role Play

Imagine the scenario in reverse. What if someone was coming to you with a similar calling on their life? How would you react?

3 Acknowledge the Struggle

If you still find yourself fearful of others’ responses when you go into a meeting, tell them how important it is to you that you honor them and the relationship. Lead the relationship well and your genuine concern will be easily received.

The desire to care for the needs and feelings of others isn’t altogether evil. It’s rooted in peace. But the enemy is a master of perversion. He can quickly take a belief and spin it into fear, lies, and doubt. Be encouraged that many of us believe asking for money is hard.

Colossians 3:12 says, "So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience....”

Call on the name of the Lord to give you wisdom. We are called to care for the needs of others above our own; and through practice and prayer, fundraising can be a reflection of loving others well, not an exception to it.


Emily Buikema, Fundraising Coach

To have the chance to breathe joy into asking for financial partnership, which can be alarming to so many, makes me honored to fill this role. I love my current home in Colorado, and I intend to hit (almost) every stereotype for the state’s residents: hiking, taking my two perfect dogs on walks by the river, driving my truck to the lake, and doing all of it with people I really like.


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