Why is asking for money so hard?!

The scariest part of fundraising for so many people is just one little question, asked a few different ways. This one question can terrify people and make fundraising feel like a massive, unclimbable mountain.

“Would you partner with me?"

“Will you be one of those families to partner with me?"


“Would you consider being a part of this ministry?"

If this terrifies you, take a deep breath, it’s okay. You aren’t alone! This is totally normal. There’s an extremely important reason for this.

The reason this is scary is… Vulnerability.

It feels as though you are laying yourself bare before your potential financial partners. They could say yes or they could say no. That’s scary. You’ll have to lay down your pride and let others know you have needs. That’s scary. You could impose on them and they might be offended. That’s incredibly scary! This keeps so many of you from even asking. 

However, being vulnerable is also one of the most important reasons to ask directly. It’s actually paramount. There’s two things this does for us.

1 - We grow immensely as a person and a child of God

When you ask a clear “yes or no” question and wait for the answer, God matures you like a skilled sword-smith tempers steel.

As the sword-smith takes the metal out of the furnace and hits it with the hammer, sparks fly. The more he does this, the more flexible the steel becomes. The more flexible it is, the less likely it is to crack or break. That’s exactly what happens to us by the Father!

Every time you experience this vulnerability, it makes you emotionally stronger to deal with other stressors and difficult situations. On the mission field, difficult situations and stressors tend to be a bit hard to miss, no matter how much we try to avoid them. This is just a small part of your growth, let God work through your fundraising! More encouragement on how God grows you through the fundraising process on the blog, A Single Bible Verse Will Change the Way You Fundraise.


2 - We allow space for our partners to grow also

You aren’t the only one who is growing in this whole process! When you are bold and ask a clear question, you allow your partners to also be bold in giving you an answer; they share in that moment with you, they enter into the tempering with you.

God’s using your invitation to challenge them. The Spirit is going to put a burden on their heart to respond, and you are giving them a chance to be vulnerable to that calling from God. In that moment of the invitation, you are asking them to share ownership of this mission opportunity. You’re asking them to accept your calling as theirs. That is huge! The biggest challenge of fundraising for missions is realizing that others' need to give is as big as your need for the funds.

A lot of us tend to think our ministry doesn’t start until we get to the field, but I assure those of you just beginning fundraising, it has already started!

See how God can use directly asking for financial partnership to spiritually mature you and your partners. As you invite people to partner with you, you’re ministering to them and helping them grow!

In her book, Daring Greatly, Brene Brown says, “Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.”

Because of scripture, we know God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of self control and boldness! You can do this, but maybe you need a little encouragement. That’s okay. We weren’t meant to do everything alone.

If vulnerability is too much of a mountain to climb on your own, let one of our coaches walk with you through that! We would love to connect with you with a trained professional who can help you get onto the field fully funded!


Drew Foote, Fundraising Coach

Some call me eccentric, some call me passionate, and some call me just plain weird. I love getting to hear others' stories, experiencing real connection with others, and seeing what drives them really fascinates me. I am thrilled to be a coach for Tailored Fundraising Solutions. When I'm not at my computer, I'll most likely be playing on my guitar or training at a local martial arts dojo!

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